I wanted to follow-up my post about Kate last week and say a huge thank you for all of the comments, and all of the love on it. As promised, here is the next post, and It’s one where just a small selection of my fellow bloggers shared memories, especially travel ones of Kate. Many of us met Kate on press trips, blogging conferences and travel events and I wanted to collate those here, for others to read, and also for Kate’s family and friends to read if they wanted to.
Kate and I with my girls on a trip to Italy, thanks to Canvas Holidays in 2016.
I wrote some of my trip memories on my last post, and thought it would be lovely to record on the blog I co-founded with Kate, travel memories from other friends that are bloggers and travel journalists. Huge thank you to everyone who contributed, I’ve loved reading through all of the memories, and I really hope you do too.
Alice Langley –Project Wanderlust.
Traveling with Kate was such a pleasure. Her childlike giggle when she first saw the Eiffel Tower will stay with me forever. That day in Paris was some of the happiest 6 hours we ever shared.
We also many random moments on our travel too….the most memorable of them all has to be when drinking outside a bar in Italy a street begger approached us asking for money – when we politely refused he swore and then grabbed a handful of crisps we were sharing before running off.
I still miss her every day – to think I’ll never watch her get patted down at security again (always, she ALWAYS got stopped) breaks my heart all over again.
Cathy Winston – Mummy Travels
One of the first times I met Kate in real life (at a big blog event), she enveloped me in a huge squashy hug and we found ourselves playing a ridiculous game of pass the parcel around a conference table – which she won. I don’t think we stopped laughing the whole way through until our cheeks ached – and it was very much down to her: finding the hilarity in everything, helping a random group feel like they’d known each other forever. Like every memory I have of Kate, that little moment is incredibly vivid and always accompanied by gales of laughter.
I first met Kate at a really bizarre blog conference in London with some strange speakers. We sat at the back of the room like naughty school girls chattering (a bit too much) until we decided to just abort the conference and have a wine instead. She was always someone I bumped into, who pulled me deep into her bosom and hugged strongly!
Nadine Hill – JuggleMum
My memories of Kate are many; cracking up together when we first met at BritMums Live, enjoying the fact that she had a bigger laugh than I do. Stuffing our faces with sugary treats when we had a chocolate lunch at Choccywoccydoodah and feeling ever so slightly sick afterwards at our overindulgence, or maybe the rollercoaster ride we shared at Disneyland Paris when her boob popped out of her bra over a steep plunging drop and whacked her in the face! This could so very easily have happened to me too! Kate just laughed, I laughed, and everyone who has ever watched the video which she put on YouTube has also laughed at that one!
Kate was that friend you always want to see at a party because you know she’d be the life of it. But she was also a kind woman who you could trust with a confidence. She didn’t take herself too seriously, able to laugh at what makes us human, and it was this quality which attracted people in. I can’t quite believe that Kate, this beautiful, bubbly flame haired vixen has gone but in the years she was here with us, she touched so many people, empowering other women to be themselves, be real, and since her death, #bemorewitwitwoo.
I hope that Kate would be proud of us all using the power of social media and our blogs to continue to spread her message of self acceptance and love. She loved life, she loved her boys and we all loved her. What a woman.
Emma Bradley – Emma And Three
I am fortunate enough to have been on some great press trips over the years and there are two with my friend Kate that stand out. Firstly a week in Corsica with a group of bloggers and our kids courtesy of Mark Warner. During the week I remember our boys Dexter and Dylan building a great friendship along with the other boys on the trip. A great memory is Dexter spending days trying to dive from the side of the swimming pool onto a lilo without falling off. Our boys laughed and laughed and Kate stood there tirelessly encouraging Dex and even having a go herself. I can’t remember if the boys ever succeeded but they had fun trying. Meanwhile us Mums watched the clock and literally dashed to the bar at 4pm when happy hour cocktails started! Such a great week and one my kids still talk about.
The second trip I went on with Kate was a one night cruise with Mumsnet, again Kate and I hung out for the duration and this time it was my Chloe and Dexter doing things together. They went on a rope course whilst Kate and I wandered around filming them, next they were trying out the water slides whilst Kate and I grabbed a beer and put the world to rights at the bar.
Kate had a huge personality and I am so glad that I knew her and enjoyed some trips with her. She was always up for a laugh and it makes me smile when I think of those times.
Nell Heshram – Pigeon Pair and Me
I first met Kate at World Travel Market, waiting for a breakfast cruise ship that never turned up. We had breakfast in Costa instead. She talked non-stop about her boys – and that’s how I’ll always remember her. Full of love for those she held closest. And a great laugh over a chocolate croissant. https://pigeonpairandme.com
Tanya – MummyBarrow
I think of Kate as the travel buddy you want on every trip. I always thought she would be able to charm her way out of a sticky situation or find the best bar in town.
She really has a left a huge hole in so many lives.
Penny Alexander – Parent Shaped Travels
I met Kate at lots of travel events, but one that really stands out is the evening we mixed cocktails in Bario East in London. It’s an amazing bar full of caravans and we had such a giggle. I also remembering being a bit stuck with blogging at the time and Kate being really sweet and really listening and caring about my woes. I love how she could be life and soul of the party and also up for deep and meaningful conversations too!
Linda Aitchinson – New blog coming soon www.havealovelytime.com
I had the privilege of spending a cruise to the Amalfi Coast with Kate. It was just me and her and the PR man. We never stopped laughing. I’m not just saying that. I was bruised and fragile emotionally as my husband had died some months before, I wasn’t sure about going but I did. We were like partners in crime, drinking cocktails, messing about sticking our thumbs up and gurning when a camera came out. Like a pair of kids.I loved being with her, it was an absolute joy.
Karin Joyce – Inperfectly Happy
Facebook reminded me the other week that it was my 7 Year Friend-a-versary with Kate. How lovely and tragic all at the same time. I so wish when I shared that post on my timeline, that Kate could have replied. Kate and I became friends through blogging. She was someone who you instantly felt comfortable with. Like you had known each other forever. Kate was so full of love and life and gave the most amazing hugs. I always was happy to see her at blogging events and conferences.
As we were both self-employed social media managers we often shared job listings and encouraged each other through private messages on Facebook and Instagram. In fact, 3 years ago, when Kate saw a job advert on Twitter that she was considering applying for, she knew that it would be far more appropriate for me and my family and made sure I knew about the listing. She encouraged me to send my CV and was my virtual cheerleader in the interviewing process. I got the job thanks, in part, to Kate. That was Kate though; always making sure that everyone got what they needed.
On the day Kate’s son Ben announced her death, I had messaged Kate on Facebook and Instagram as I hadn’t seen her lovely face online for several days. I missed her and wanted to make sure she was okay. Except that she wasn’t. And she was never going to reply to my message. Kate’s death has affected me dramatically but it has also helped me to appreciate what a true gem Kate was. I believe that her presence in my life was destined to help me life my life to the full and be joyful for the things I have. Kate made everyone happy and I would like to carry on her legacy and think that she’s watching us from above.
Kirstie Pelling – Family Adventure Project.
I first met Kate at a speed networking event. I had a stall next to her and In between the slots we had our own fast paced catch ups. We’d both been put in wrong sections-I was in with the intrepid single adventure travellers and she was categorised LGBT which she found highly amusing. Perhaps appropriately for a speed networking event she entertained me with her tales of dating disasters. We met many times after that, usually on press events where we had to shout to be heard above the noise of a speed boat or the whir of wheels in a velodrome. And always her distinctive laugh cut through the background noise and chatter as it did that very first day when neither of us got a match, but hooked a promising friend. http://familyadventureproject.org
Carrie Bradley – Flying With A Baby
I was never on a press trip with Kate but we first met at Mumsnet and spent most of the day chatting to each other out of the conferences! Then at WTM and a Philippine Tourism board event where we consumed numerous cocktails. I took the cycle shot she posted x
Molly Forbes – Mothers Always Right
Kate was one of the first people I met “IRL” in the blogging world, at a conference back in 2012. I instantly gravitated towards her beautiful beaming face, fiery hair and IDGAF attitude. Despite her big personality and dry sense of humour, Kate had a super soft, warm and genuinely caring nature that I always found really comforting. She was funny, vivacious, irreverent and kind – I remember thinking she was everything I’d want in a big sister if I had one. I was regularly inspired by Kate’s positive attitude to life and miss her cheer-leading words of encouragement and witty banter in my DM’s tremendously. She may be gone, but Kate’s left a fiery legacy that will burn bright long after her death. She’s inspired so many people to love themselves, put themselves out there and grab life with both hands. And that’s why, when I think of Kate, I smile instead of cry.